is like a sledge hammer v. a logging saw.
In a debate, one person uses debate like a sledge hammer against the other person. Then the other person reacts and does the same thing.
In a dialogue, they use dialogue like a two-person logging saw that takes cooperation to work.
Here's a quick contrast between
The goal is to "win" the argument by affirming one's own views and discrediting other views.
The goal is to understand different perspectives and learn about other views.
People listen to others to find flaws in their auguments.
People listen to others to understand how their experiences shape their beliefs.
People critique the experiences of others as distorted and invalid.
People accept the experiences of others as real and valid.
People appear to be determined not to change their own views on the issue.
People appear to be somewhat open to expanding their understanding of the issue.
People speak based on assumptions made about others' positions and motivations.
People speak primarily from their own understanding and experience.
People oppose each other and attempt to prove each other wrong.
People work together toward common understanding.
Strong emotions like anger are often used to intimidate the other side.
Strong emotions like anger and sadness are appropriate when they convey the intensity of an experience or belief.
Excerpt taken from The Little Book of Dialogue for Difficult Subjects, A Practical, Hands-On Guide, by Lisa Schirch & David Campt., Page 9.