What exactly are we fighting about? Our ability to clearly state what the issues are will help us to determine a redemptive outcome. Broadcasting a generalized judgment or labeling can bring more confusion, tension, and escalation to the conflict.
If we can determine the kind(s) of conflict we have entered, we will have a better chance to realistically resolve the conflict.
Dr. Ron Claassen brings the following insights to help us define our conflicts.
Ron writes, "As we move down the list, it will likely be more difficult to resolve the conflict constructively. It is not impossible, but will require more planning and perhaps outside help."
What are we fighting about? Determining the level of conflict on the above continuum will help us to determine a strategy to find resolution.